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Do I really have a half-sister?
After enjoying an informative program on TV where, the topic on this night was a discussion about the Pros and Cons of having your DNA done because for some people, dark family secrets are revealed. I then had to ask myself; Do I really have a half-sister?
It seems that not everyone has had a pleasant experience with finding out the results of their own DNA. And if given the opportunity again, knowing what they now know, would they get it done again?
For some people who received information that was previously unknown to them, I’d completely understand if they said no. Not only is that particular person affected by the results, but at least 2 other people will have lasting affects as well.
This is usually the mother and father with possibly an unknown man. Plus, this list can sometimes extend further depending on the individual’s circumstances. So where do I fit in?
Piqued my interest
This episode piqued my interest because it reminded me of an email that I’d received via my private Ancestry profile and because I was living with ‘blinkers on’ back then, I never considered this stranger’s suggestion and fobbed it off.
The easiest part of building the Family Tree is adding all those family members that you know and are alive and those immediate members who’ve died.
This man was suggesting to me that he knew my sister. She was approximately 7 years younger than me and he said her name was Rebecca, if I recall correctly.
Well of course I dismissed it immediately.
As mentioned earlier, this information did not fit in my world, my bubble, so I replied.
Dear…. Thank you for contacting me but unfortunately there must be a mistake as my sister’s name is not Rebecca and her age is not as you’ve mentioned.
That was that as far as I was concerned.
So, after watching the SBS program and upon reflection I re-considered this stranger’s suggestion because there were so many people who have had similar experiences/learnings.
I know both of my parents very well. My father was a sailor who spent long, ‘lonely’ months at a time away from home.
And knowing my mother’s personality, she should’ve been born in the 1960’s or 1970’s where women attained a lot more freedom of expression and will. She was a leader for women everywhere and that’s how she lived in those 1950’s days.
Being a divorcee female with an insecure income, my mother could have given up a baby for adoption. And my father has always been a bit of a lady’s man and attractive as well. (When I was young, I’ve heard women say so.)
Also, based on this young lady’s year of birth, my parents were definitely separated so yes, maybe it is true? Maybe I do have a younger half-sister.
Now that I think about it, how could I have been so ignorant to this suggestion?
In my social circle I personally know of people who have recently learnt of being in similar situations.
It’s quite common and openly discussed especially now that divorces and 2nd marriages are more acceptable in society so there would be quite a few people who may not have known about one of their parents.
Just quickly off the top of my head, I know of 20 people who have grown up not knowing their father.
A typical scenario is when soldiers travelled due to conflicts as there are quite a few stories where the visiting soldier was not aware of the circumstances that he’d left behind when heading home.
Ooh! Now that I’d like to chat to this man who contacted me 2 or so years ago, I hope I’m not too late.
I quickly sent a new reply hoping to start up a conversation to delve deeper, but to date, I’ve heard nothing.
Hmmm. Nothing yet. It looks like I’ve missed an opportunity.
Tip: When searching for ancestors, always keep an open mind because how you live and what you believe in may be different to your ancestors.
Tip: Second marriages are just as prominent then as they are now although they tend to be more from divorces these days.
In regards tot he question: Would you have the DNA done again? From those who appeared on the program, it seems that it was a 50/50. For those who said no, the main reason being, is the information that was given to them did not conform with their world as they knew it.
They had family that they were not aware of and some people found some of the stories painful.
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