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Remember the song? It has the words ‘Your daddy is your daddy but your daddy don’t know’.
Shame & Scandal in the Family.
(I’m into songs at the moment as my last story, incorporated ‘Love Child’ by the Supremes https://donjonjourneys.com/love-child-diana-ross-the-supremes/
Anywho, it appears that while the majority of this world holds fidelity high, there are a huge number of us that think otherwise. Maybe because – Life just happens.
No matter what the reasons are, most families have stories of a family member that has remained unknown until the universe creates a connection.
With technology being so prevalent in our 21st century lives it can be the link for the connection of which DNA plays a huge role.
Knowing both of my parents extremely well, I wasn’t surprised when I received an email from a stranger to say that they knew my sister. She was a different age and had a different name to my sister. The sister that I knew about.
While I fobbed it off at the time (my hair was blonde 😊), I realized later how true this could be.
So, I now can only sit and wait to see if they reply to me.
But wait! There’s more!
My grandfather had a half-sister that he never met. This came up during my research of the G. Grandfather so who knows if there were more and who knows if he knew or my mother knew.
I believe there would be more relatives because contraception was just a dream back around 1910.
I would love to meet some of them especially to see what character traits or similar looks are carried through.
So, I’ll put a call out now. The man’s name was Frederick Fiddes who was born around 1869.
At the turn of the century, as a young man, he married Clara and was working as a Blacksmith he supported Clara and his family of approximately 6 children.
At around 1905, Frederick wandered further and further from home and prior to and the catalyst for his divorce, he met a lady who was living in North Queensland around the Rockhampton- Mackay region.
It was from this time until he enlisted for WW1 in 1914 that there are more children. At least 1 that I know of but surely there are more.
In his military records, he has not acknowledged any wife and has clearly stated that he was a widow, but newspaper clippings make mention of a woman in Rockhampton and a child.
I have no knowledge of the lady’s name so, if you have some insight into his story or feel my G. Grandfather’s name is in your family tree, please contact me and I can confirm it through our DNA matching.
The Gift That Keeps on Giving
Another story that’s along the same lines as the title, ‘The Gift That Keeps Giving’ was from a lady named Kathryn who, like me just loves to hear about the stories that our ancestors have.
And, it’s all sorts of stories.
One that she mentioned was about her Grandfather who, in his hay days, managed to marry 2 women.
But, this was NOT the secret or the story!
I’ve decided to write this using fictitious names for everyone for clarity of the people in the story as I wasn’t given any real names.
Bill was a man of many talents – shall we say as we can see from t5he bigamy (above) and everything went swimmingly for him until WW2 broke out.
He had children to wife no. 2 who’ll we’ll name Mavis.
The problem was when Bill was shipped off, all military income that the military allocated to be sent home, went to his wife: no.1 – Gladys because it was her name that were in the Military records.
Needless to say, Mavis and Bill separated. There was no divorce because there was no legal marriage.
After legally divorcing his first wife, Bill and Mavis ended up getting married, legally.
They lived in the quite country town of in Central Coastal Queensland where Mavis had grown up but while in military training Bill discovered a lovely little town which was in Far North Queensland wanted to go back to.
Although Mavis would be away from all of her family, she couldn’t see a reason as to why not, so Bill and Mavis with the kids of at least 2 boys made the change.
It was a lovely place on the mountain ranges and Mavis and family comfortably fitted in.
Years went by. Then decades.
The children were middle aged adults and had children themselves. It was about this time when DNA testing was becoming popular and the data base began to grow so there was masses of information to access.
So much so that genealogy websites were contacting their members and letting them know of those who were in their data base and was connected to them.
It was around this time that one of Kathryn’s uncles (Glen) had his DNA results return.
While he recognised some of the names as cousins there were a lot of unknown names which was expected.
But there was another male person listed as possible brother that he didn’t recognise. And who coincidentally, was born in the same little town that was perched on the mountain ranges of Far North Queensland.
It didn’t make sense. How can that be?
This man named Terry had a similar DNA and was listed as a possible sibling but Glen’s brother’s name wasn’t Terry – well the one he knew about and grew up with.
Now’s supposed to have a brother named Terry. How could that be?
Glen didn’t even recall the name Terry from his childhood when living in that little town.
1000 kilometres away, Terry was scratching his head as he looked at a similar message about his DNA results. Not to mention there were other siblings but of course, unknown to him. Terry was an only child.
Who are these people?
The curiosity got the better of Terry so he decided to contact Glen.
Terry had to talk to these people about it because being an only child there was no-one else. His mother who had passed away, never married again after his ‘father died in an accident’. Terry was alone in this world.
So, these people were the only ones he could talk to about it.
Break the ice
At least they had the town in common to break the ice, because they hadn’t known each other.
Terry and Glen had birth dates only a few months apart and were born in the same hospital.
Both of their mothers were pregnant at the same time. Did they know each other?
When they first saw each other, they couldn’t believe the resemblances as both boys looked like their father.
It seems that Bill, while he didn’t marry again (commit bigamy) he did spend some time with another woman.
Terry’s mother just found it easier to say that his father died in an accident and took her secret with her but whether she knew if there was a wife, no-one will know.
The positive that has come out of it is that Terry has now found a family and is treated as a brother. He has been welcomed into the family so the good thing that came out of it, he is no longer alone.
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